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All work no play? 3 Best places to find an amazing date on your work hustle

October is here already and I was thinking about you! With all the Halloween parties coming up, I thought you could use some help finding a party date. And you never know where a party date could lead to!

I know what you’re thinking, “I am too busy”……”Jen, there’s no point there aren’t any good ones left.” That’s why I am sharing three of my favorite tips that will be sure to help you have a date with a Hans Solo and stay away from the Ghouls.

Coffee meets bagel app

Coffee Meets Bagel app

Dating apps are great and there are plenty to choose from. I highly recommend two, the first is Coffee Meets Bagel the second is Cheekd.

Coffee Meets Bagel is a FREE app for Team Apple & Team Droid that launched in NYC –which means will have its highest matches in tri-state area.

Based on your preferences, it gives you a daily “bagel” at noon, which is a date for lunch that you can like or not pass. It’s connected to Facebook so you can see if you have mutual friends but it does not show up on your Facebook page so none of your friends know you are on. Also, my favorite part is that there are no profiles to have to go through! My dating clients have gone on a few great dates with this app and love it. Also there’s no staying online forever because they only give you 24 hours to decide to get offline and go on a date!

Cheeked app

Cheek’d app

CHEEK’d APP LOVE IT! Perfect for the busy professional and only an Apple App right now but great for meeting someone in your direct vicinity in real-time vs virtual time. No lost opportunities anymore! The Bluetooth technology allows the app to work on the train, on a plane or during lunch time. You’ll get a notification if someone who meets your criteria is within 30 feet of you. If you’re near a potential spark, Cheekd makes sure you know about it.

Read more about Cheek’ed    Lori Cheek



2.  Next place, on your THE COMMUTE, TRAIN, SUBWAY OR BUS.

Businesswoman Commuting To Work On Train And Using Laptop

Don’t read that book, pop in those headphones or stay glued to your phone. Make a genuine effort to be aware of your surroundings. Even if you drive, I am sure you are walking some of it. Act like the LOVE & FUN FBI. Your job is to look around, enjoy your surroundings, people watch, sightsee, even if this is the tenth time you have taken this commute. Look for the beauty and the need of the things you look at. One think I do is look at how objects help so many people. I promise you it will be different. I remember a game I used to play when I was a kid, I would look at someone and imagine their amazing life story. I do this now when I want to make new friends. Look, listen and feel for the opportunity for LOVE & FUN. Stay curious of the possibilities. Pick one person on every commute you will exchange a smile, a hello and ask them a question (people love sharing their opinions!). Amazing loves amazing, so he or she will find you while you are on your expedition of life.


Woman looking at the view in balloon exercises room

The other great place to find a great date is at the places YOU have meant to go to. No more waiting. Make the time for that thing you have wanted to do, that place you have wanted to go eat at, that vacation you’ve had on hold. Stop procrastinating. If you don’t make the time for yourself, odds are you won’t meet someone who will stop and make the time for you. Everyone has the same amount of time in 1 day we just all use it differently. Prioritize your values into a life you are proud of. If you value family time or friend time but you are always at work, your soul won’t be happy because you are misaligned on your values. So make time for what’s valuable to you. If work is your highest value, bring your happiness there, talk to people, get to know them, take the time to have coffee dates with colleagues that seem great to get to know, men or women.

Ready to use one of these suggestions? Have a question, comment to this article. Already used it, tell us how it went, we’d love to hear from you.


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Lori Cheek

Cheek’d CEO Lori Cheek shares on the business of dating

As your dating coach, I was lucky enough to snag an invite to this amazing soiree with Lori Cheek, a Digital Dating Disruptor, Founder & CEO of Cheek’d, and get the low down on the latest dating app. But I got so much more than that and I am sharing it all with you.

Lori Cheek

Lori Cheek, the dating app founder

“Prior to launching Cheek’d, I worked in architecture, furniture and design for 15 years for companies such as Christian Dior, Vitra & Karkula. Trained as an architect, I began my career with multiple project management roles in New York City focusing on architectural interiors. A few years ago, I came up with an idea that led me into the NYC World of Tech and I’m loving life more than ever.” (From TEDx Fulton Street )

Plenty of beauty, brains and grit were delivered by former Shark Tank contestant Lori Cheek at a fireside chat with founder Zenaida Lorenzo. Lori talked about the truth that must go into the plight of a successful entrepreneur as she shared with the audience her latest startup “Cheekd,” a dating app that makes missed connections obsolete. This event was made possible by the collaboration of Ali Curi, Founder of Hispanic Professionals Networking Group (HPNG) and Paul Snatchki of Joynture, an innovative workspace in the heart of Wall Street.

Yes the app is amazing and FREE to download!  If you have an Apple device, you want to download it right away! It helps make REAL TIME connections. (Android version coming up soon.)

(L to R) Zoraida Lorenzo, Danny Sanchez, Lori Cheek, Ali Curi and our LIBizus coach Jennifer Castaneda

(L to R) Zoraida Lorenzo, Danny Sanchez, Lori Cheek, Ali Curi and our LIBizus coach Jennifer Castaneda

How many times are you at the gym or coffee shop and you run in and out and don’t even look around because you are on your phone or super distracted? Well now your phone alerts you in real time when there are people you may be interested in right around the corner!

Cheek’d ensures you’ll “Never Miss A Connection.” It works on a train, plane, pretty much anywhere; you get notifications in real time if someone within 30 feet of your location meets your dating criteria.

But here is the kicker: it has to be mutual!

I love this app’s idea because the truth is we are missing out on what’s around us, on what’s present.  Lori’s moment of inspiration came when she witnessed a handsome architect leave his card with a woman he didn’t even know in hopes she’d give him a call.  This sparked something in her, this connection between strangers that wouldn’t have otherwise happened.

She realized this interaction is missed hundreds and hundreds of times a day due to fear, time and just plain “life”.  She shared, “I feel it’s so hard to meet people, especially at online dating sites! There is a personal touch that is lost,” she said, and joking she added that it took her up to 17 hours once to set up one dating site for herself.  She said, “Pay attention to what’s around you and you could find that your love is right here!”

As for the grit I mentioned earlier, Lori has plenty of it. When she decided to take the entrepreneur’s leap, she never looked back.  She sold her lovely designer wardrobe to stay afloat, then rented out her gorgeous apartment and lived with friends to keep her dream alive.

You've been cheekd with Lori Cheek at Shark Tank

You’ve been cheek’d with Lori Cheek at Shark Tank

When she was voted off Shark Tank on National TV, well, she KEPT GOING.  When asked if she ever thought about quitting she said, “As an entrepreneur you have to be a little crazy; I never wanted to quit, there’s no turning back, even if this version doesn’t work I will pivot because I KNOW this is what’s missing.”

She goes on to say something I am sure we can all relate to, “I felt like I never really fit in with my hair, clothes, or personality.” In her previous life, she felt she needed to fit into a box. At the beginning she didn’t even know how to run a business but now she is getting paid to live her own dream.

She can be who she wants to be and would do ANYTHING she needs to do to figure things out and make it work.  “Every day I come up with new ideas to figure things out. They may not all work; yes, you will hit road blocks but you have to continue figuring things out. If you want things bad enough you have to keep moving,” she shared with the audience.

Dedication, perseverance and of course the willingness to take risks are important factors in building a business. Her final advice is to have by your side a great team of people who believe in you and your dream. “I would say the same about your partner and other relationships in your life.  A boyfriend or husband that doesn’t believe in your dreams can really weigh you down,” she concluded.

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