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Tips to find love next time you are traveling for work

Ever feel like you won’t find love because you are constantly on the go? Well, let’s talk about it!

You are on a red-eye to Chicago on business, a flight to South America to meet with a bunch of clients, or just need a vacation so you fly off to the Bahamas for the week. On the back of your mind you wonder, will I meet the one on this trip?

find love while traveling long-distance relationships

Ever feel like you won’t find love because you are constantly on the go? Well, let’s talk about it!

You are on a red-eye to Chicago on business, a flight to South America to meet with a bunch of clients, or just need a vacation so you fly off to the Bahamas for the week. On the back of your mind you wonder, will I meet the one on this trip?

You definitely can.

Make this trip about yourself and what you’d like to feel during and after the trip. Let go of any previous bad experiences on trips and really focus on what YOU”D like to feel this time around. Write all of it down.

What are you looking for to find love?

Whether you decided it is fun, connection, love, romance, or peace you are looking for on this trip, let’s find ways to infuse that in every aspect from the moment you are packing, boarding, flying, landing and on your trip.

If it is fun and love you’d like to experience in this trip, then put a fun song on while you pack. When you start to feel stressed, dance around, karaoke and commit to yourself that this experience will be fun.

If you start stressing about long-distance relationships remember to LOVE yourself through it and be nice to yourself.

When you get to the airport, make eye contact and chat with as many men AND women as you can. BE LOVING and FUN.

If something doesn’t go as planned… FIND the gift in it.

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Maybe a late plane also means you’ll run into someone you were supposed to!

On the plane sitting next to people who are sleeping? Write yourself a love letter, the type of love letter you’d love to receive. Be open to conversations –even if waiting for the toilette– and ask more questions and truly listen vs. talking. This is to really feel a connection with someone.

While in Rome…

When you are in the destination city, make plans to integrate those things you initially wrote in your journal or on the paper. Even if it’s five minutes of fun or a whole night out.   Instead of being on your phone, ask people you pass what’s their favorite part of the city or where they are originally from. You can also check out Meetup.com in that area to find activities that will peak your interests. Try something NEW.

You might be interested: 9 Tips to make long-distance relationships last

I don’t even live here!

When the thought comes into your head, why am I trying to find love if I don’t even live here? Listen to this, you are never really “finding love.” Imagine yourself as a powerful love magnet, love can’t help gravitate towards you, all you need to do is fully open the door so it can see your soul.

And I know that’s the scary part sometimes but that’s for another article. For now, I want you to trust me and believe in the possibility that the right love is in your path. What if he lives in this town now? What if he was planning to move back to your city this summer? What if the woman you talk to introduces you to her brother, friend or great single cousin that same night?

We, independent women, love to control, not from a bad place but because several times in our lives we had to pick up the pieces. When it comes to love -and especially long-distance relationships- we need to let down and TRUST that the possibilities are endless and we don’t have to know how it’s going to turn out.

You are on fire!

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Finally, so now your energy has been so on fire since you followed steps 1-4 you run into a great potential love. Now, you talk to him. You make sure you meet eyes, find your own unique way to let him know you are interested and allow him to pursue.

Women say, “I don’t want to be the pursuer” and I get it. But you have to understand that in old school ways the woman was always the pursuer. She saw someone she liked and she’d drop her handkerchief in front of him to let him know he had permission to approach her.

So go ahead and drop “your” handkerchief my friend in your own unique way!

Give long-distance relationships a chance

Also remember at the beginning I believe in giving him a chance; don’t make it so hard to approach you. When you are getting to know each other is when he gets to know your standards. Too many women put up many boundaries during courtship but then when the relationship is going they don’t have any boundaries.

My advice for you is to make it easy for him to approach you and contact you back home. If you like him, don’t play games and get to know him.

 

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9 Tips to make long-distance relationships last

I don’t believe the old sayings that “Amor de lejos es para los pendejos” or “Amor de lejos felices los cuatro” because I know two lovely friends that fell for someone during a trip and after happy long-distance relationships they got married.

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I was honored to attend the wedding of one of them. The couple actually met on a plane. She was a nurse and he was in the military, both with very demanding careers. But many of these tips I want to share with you were aspects they prioritized.   So now if you meet a great guy during one of your business trips, these are nine tips on how to make long-distance relationships work.

  1. State what your hopes are from the beginning and what your commitment is. Even if it’s one phone call every 3 days at 7pm. Relationships need some sort of routine. Some couples work on anti-routine but it’s still their routine. So you guys develop a routine you can can’t on.
  2. Be open to feeling off sometimes and be ready to communicate.
  3. Don’t think you have to read each other minds; be honest on how you feel.
  4. Be creative. Send them gifts, hand-written letters and videos of you.
  5. The scariest thing usually in long-distance relationships is “will he/she forget about me?” and “what is she/he doing now?” Neither of those thoughts are about LOVING or being there for each other and that’s what you need to focus on. Remember you can’t control them but you can control what you do so send quick videos, Facetime and make sure you stay present and happy in your own life.Long-distance relationships 2
  6. Try to make trips to see each other, not only to your hometowns but to a place neither of you have been to. That way it will create intimacy and trust between each other. You will have something of your own.
  7. If you feel them backing off, back off too, they might need some space to integrate this new change for them it doesn’t necessarily mean they met someone else, so let them know. “I noticed if you haven’t been calling on your usual days, I want to be there for you so I’m just checking in to see how you are?” vs “What the heck is going on, you don’t call anymore, has something changed with you?” because if they do need space, as a good friend let’s give it to them.
  8. By the same token if they are very in your space and constantly calling try not to push back. Just let them know, “I’ve noticed you called 6 times today and I feel like I need my space so can you call me once and leave a message and as soon as I can I’ll call you?” He/she may not even know what he’s doing and she/he’s just excited. No need to get scared and this is a great time for you to learn about yourself and having boundaries. And not running away when things are uncomfortable.Long-distance relationships 3
  9. Finally I’d suggest you both take Gary Chapman’s 5 Languages of Love http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ This will help both of you know how you like to be loved as individuals. This is a great benefit so the things you do to be loving or caring don’t fall on deaf ears. Especially with long distance relationships, it’s about quality not quantity.

And if you are still looking for some inspiration watch one of my favorites, Going The Distance with Drew Barrymore about long distance relationships. http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1322312/