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All work no play? 3 Best places to find an amazing date on your work hustle

October is here already and I was thinking about you! With all the Halloween parties coming up, I thought you could use some help finding a party date. And you never know where a party date could lead to!

I know what you’re thinking, “I am too busy”……”Jen, there’s no point there aren’t any good ones left.” That’s why I am sharing three of my favorite tips that will be sure to help you have a date with a Hans Solo and stay away from the Ghouls.

Coffee meets bagel app

Coffee Meets Bagel app

Dating apps are great and there are plenty to choose from. I highly recommend two, the first is Coffee Meets Bagel the second is Cheekd.

Coffee Meets Bagel is a FREE app for Team Apple & Team Droid that launched in NYC –which means will have its highest matches in tri-state area.

Based on your preferences, it gives you a daily “bagel” at noon, which is a date for lunch that you can like or not pass. It’s connected to Facebook so you can see if you have mutual friends but it does not show up on your Facebook page so none of your friends know you are on. Also, my favorite part is that there are no profiles to have to go through! My dating clients have gone on a few great dates with this app and love it. Also there’s no staying online forever because they only give you 24 hours to decide to get offline and go on a date!

Cheeked app

Cheek’d app

CHEEK’d APP LOVE IT! Perfect for the busy professional and only an Apple App right now but great for meeting someone in your direct vicinity in real-time vs virtual time. No lost opportunities anymore! The Bluetooth technology allows the app to work on the train, on a plane or during lunch time. You’ll get a notification if someone who meets your criteria is within 30 feet of you. If you’re near a potential spark, Cheekd makes sure you know about it.

Read more about Cheek’ed    Lori Cheek



2.  Next place, on your THE COMMUTE, TRAIN, SUBWAY OR BUS.

Businesswoman Commuting To Work On Train And Using Laptop

Don’t read that book, pop in those headphones or stay glued to your phone. Make a genuine effort to be aware of your surroundings. Even if you drive, I am sure you are walking some of it. Act like the LOVE & FUN FBI. Your job is to look around, enjoy your surroundings, people watch, sightsee, even if this is the tenth time you have taken this commute. Look for the beauty and the need of the things you look at. One think I do is look at how objects help so many people. I promise you it will be different. I remember a game I used to play when I was a kid, I would look at someone and imagine their amazing life story. I do this now when I want to make new friends. Look, listen and feel for the opportunity for LOVE & FUN. Stay curious of the possibilities. Pick one person on every commute you will exchange a smile, a hello and ask them a question (people love sharing their opinions!). Amazing loves amazing, so he or she will find you while you are on your expedition of life.


Woman looking at the view in balloon exercises room

The other great place to find a great date is at the places YOU have meant to go to. No more waiting. Make the time for that thing you have wanted to do, that place you have wanted to go eat at, that vacation you’ve had on hold. Stop procrastinating. If you don’t make the time for yourself, odds are you won’t meet someone who will stop and make the time for you. Everyone has the same amount of time in 1 day we just all use it differently. Prioritize your values into a life you are proud of. If you value family time or friend time but you are always at work, your soul won’t be happy because you are misaligned on your values. So make time for what’s valuable to you. If work is your highest value, bring your happiness there, talk to people, get to know them, take the time to have coffee dates with colleagues that seem great to get to know, men or women.

Ready to use one of these suggestions? Have a question, comment to this article. Already used it, tell us how it went, we’d love to hear from you.


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5 Top online dating profile mishaps you can avoid (free session)

Pretty young woman dating over mobile phone

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So you are an awesome person, good-looking, sociable and your friends love you.  You would love to be in some sort of relationship but you are so busy with your career and work that you just don’t have the time. You figure, “I might as well try online dating,”  especially since online dating has been losing its stigma with 59 percent of Americans actually stating it’s a good place to meet someone.

You finally take the leap to put your profile up, take the quiz, answer 100 personality questions, go through a zillion pictures to pick your favorite three –which you will constantly change anyway–,  not to mention retyping your one liner screen name and tagline several times.

Then you wait. And wait.

So you courageously decide to send some likes, winks and emails to those who you think would be a good partner for you at your next work or family party.

Then you wait again. Wait some more. Nothing. Crickets.

So here are the top 5 mishaps I see my clients are doing that, although they are awesome people, their online dating profile isn’t translating their best image and features.

  1. Your grammar:

According to studies done by, men and women both preferred people who had a grasp of good grammar and spelling. If you chose to answer messages with “cuz,” “im” or “u,” on average you received 13 percent fewer messages on Zoosk. revealed this was the number one turn-off for daters (even over text), with 54 percent of women and 36 percent of men agreeing to this statement.

Solution: Proofread; have someone else read it for you. Don’t type while you are tired!

girl taking photos with her phone

  1. Bad pictures:

Your picture is your first impression; you in person, the second one. How many years between the day you took the picture and you today? Also, are you showing who you are?

Solution: Try not be wrapped up in scarves, hats and coats.  Outdoors and action shots get the most return messaging. Full body shots are the best. And men, please avoid the “selfie” shots. Don’t take pictures with other people in the picture. Smile!

3.  Personal interaction:

When you interact with someone and really want to send them a message, read their profile, be specific and ask them just one question.

Not so good: “Hey what’s up, liked ur profile, think we have alot in common. Wanna chat some time. What’s ur fav restaurant?”

Instead: “Hey, Gabriel, congratulations on your art being presented at the NYC museum, sounds exciting. Is your artwork still up?”

Better. Feel the difference?

  1. Intuition versus judgment:

Before you decide to say no to someone, stop judging them so easily.  There is a difference between using your intuition and being judgmental.  Some people are better in person than on screen, just like some people are way smarter than the way they take standardized tests.

Couple drinking wine at beach restaurant on sunset

  1. Just date:

Finally, stop hunting for your soul mate or spouse. Just date for now, have a good time, be open to a new experience, and have fun. If you keep wondering “is he the one?’ or “is she the one?” you will be too blinded to see them for who they really are.



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Romance in the workplace and dangerous liaisons

Romance in the workplace? Your boss is friendly and supportive. He is a real gentleman, open to your questions, always ready to help or explain, generous with praise, and married. He invites you to discuss the project you both have been working in for the last few weeks over dinner after a late work night. Would you accept?

So you are in your 30s and single, and have a hard-working schedule; long days, long after work hours, little time to lunch –if any – or eating at your desk. Day after day, the routine repeats. Then one day, one of your co-workers stops by your desk and tells you they are meeting at the bar across the street for happy hour. Would you like to join them?

flirting in the office romance in the workplace

Let’s face it, people spend more and more time at work, connected to their office by phone, devices, email, social media, you name it. We are wired into our work life almost 24 hours a day. We relate to all sorts of people, co-workers, colleagues, supervisors, supervised, mentors, mentees, high executives, managers, entry-levels, vendors, clients. There is no larger variety of potential candidates right at your fingertips other than in the workplace.

You might like or not like some of the people you work for or with, but the truth is romance in the workplace happens because of the closeness, daily contact, shared activities and interests, and chemistry.

Not all workplace romances cause problems but companies are exposed to lawsuits for sexual harassment, damaged morale, loss of productivity and more if they do not handle these type of situations properly.

Employee looking at her boss relationships in the workplace5 Ways to avoid heartache in the workplace (Dating a co-worker)

We spend most part of our days at work and it isn’t uncommon to fall for someone who works side by side with you. Office romance happens more often than we think and it can have consequences. I will share the top 5 ways to navigate romance in the workplace so you don’t lose sleep or your job.


5 Ways to get along with a rude (overbearing) boss

We all have had them, bosses who micromanage, bosses who are ungrateful and focus on our weaknesses rather than our strengths.  There is a way out! You don’t have to pull your hair. I will share the 5 ways you can stop getting stressed by your rude boss and actually get on his or her good side.

You might be interested: 3 Ways to stop being a doormat at work 

All work and NO play: Where to find a date when you are always at work, on the commute or exhausted at home

I will suggest great places and ways to find a date even if you are at work, on the commute or when you just feel like being home!

Is your strong personality intimidating your co-workers?

I will share the truth behind this myth. NO, men are not intimidated by strong independent women. They are intimidated by women who are closed off. Sometimes we mistake being strong with being closed up because being vulnerable is seen as a weakness. So it’s time to show women that this is an asset!

Are you tired of being a doormat at work?

Being nurturing and forgiving is in our blood and sometimes we end up being doormats in the workplace. It’s time to set up strong boundaries while still being able to give as much as we’d like. We don’t have to become frosty to get our needs met. There is a balance.

So hurry, contact me below and find the balance you always wanted in your relationships!