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7 Steps to master family and career balance

Striking family and career balance -between caring for family and your home while having a career too- is something all women struggle with.

Balance in relationships, unhappy couple

Growing up in a Puerto Rican household it was no secret that family ALWAYS came first. I watched my mom dedicate her entire life to raising my twin brother and I and caring for her 13 plus brothers and sisters! It wasn’t until I was in high school that she started a part-time job. You could see how proud she was to contribute to our household while also still taking care of all the cooking, cleaning and keeping up with our activities and school obligations.

Honestly, now that I am a mom and running my own business, I do not know how she did it! Within the Latino culture the mindset surrounding your family obligations runs very deep and spans many generations. Many Latinas are caring for their grandparents and siblings in addition to their own family.

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Erica Pagano is the Founder and CEO of Total Fitness Evolution

So how can you balance caring for your family and your career? Here are some tips I have discovered to help me create my own balance. It is important to find what works for you and trust me every day is a work in progress!

1) Create a weekly game plan and prioritize it daily…This has been a game changer for me because the reality is that your TO DO list can be never can feel like you are not getting much done when that list keeps growing. Set 3 “must get done” tasks daily and reevaluate at the end of the week your progress.

2) Learn to say “no.” This was a big one for me. I am a people pleaser and always wanting to help! But we must learn to minimize activities that zap too much of our time and energy and are not really helping us achieve our goals.

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3) Check email, messages, social media at designated times if possible. Being plugged in all the time can be a time zapper and takes away from getting other things done. Unless it is a dire emergency or a project that requires being on call all the time, those messages will still be there!

4) Work smarter, not harder…if you have a job filled with a million little tasks break them into chunks, set a timer and complete as many of the tasks as you can within that time.

5) Schedule time for fun and exercise. It is so easy to get into a routine of just work, work, work, or one family obligation after another. We all need to have fun and we need to take care of our bodies. Doing so positively impacts our mind so we overall are happier!

6) Prioritize sleep! This is a tough one…we all are guilty of staying up late either working, binging on NetFlix or cleaning the house! Do your best to get 7-8 hours of sleep. This will keep you healthier in so many ways including muscle recovery and repair, strengthening your immune system and sharpening your focus and attention the next day.

7) Get your family involved in household chores and tasks. Your family is your team and we can tackle more together! On Sundays my family and I work on meal prep. It helps us all stay on track during the week with less stress and meals are pulled together quickly!

You might be interested: Meej Chaparro-Traverso successful workplace relationships depend on a balanced life

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All work no play? 3 Best places to find an amazing date on your work hustle

October is here already and I was thinking about you! With all the Halloween parties coming up, I thought you could use some help finding a party date. And you never know where a party date could lead to!

I know what you’re thinking, “I am too busy”……”Jen, there’s no point there aren’t any good ones left.” That’s why I am sharing three of my favorite tips that will be sure to help you have a date with a Hans Solo and stay away from the Ghouls.

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Coffee Meets Bagel app

Dating apps are great and there are plenty to choose from. I highly recommend two, the first is Coffee Meets Bagel the second is Cheekd.

Coffee Meets Bagel is a FREE app for Team Apple & Team Droid that launched in NYC –which means will have its highest matches in tri-state area.

Based on your preferences, it gives you a daily “bagel” at noon, which is a date for lunch that you can like or not pass. It’s connected to Facebook so you can see if you have mutual friends but it does not show up on your Facebook page so none of your friends know you are on. Also, my favorite part is that there are no profiles to have to go through! My dating clients have gone on a few great dates with this app and love it. Also there’s no staying online forever because they only give you 24 hours to decide to get offline and go on a date!

Cheeked app

Cheek’d app

CHEEK’d APP LOVE IT! Perfect for the busy professional and only an Apple App right now but great for meeting someone in your direct vicinity in real-time vs virtual time. No lost opportunities anymore! The Bluetooth technology allows the app to work on the train, on a plane or during lunch time. You’ll get a notification if someone who meets your criteria is within 30 feet of you. If you’re near a potential spark, Cheekd makes sure you know about it.

Read more about Cheek’ed    Lori Cheek



2.  Next place, on your THE COMMUTE, TRAIN, SUBWAY OR BUS.

Businesswoman Commuting To Work On Train And Using Laptop

Don’t read that book, pop in those headphones or stay glued to your phone. Make a genuine effort to be aware of your surroundings. Even if you drive, I am sure you are walking some of it. Act like the LOVE & FUN FBI. Your job is to look around, enjoy your surroundings, people watch, sightsee, even if this is the tenth time you have taken this commute. Look for the beauty and the need of the things you look at. One think I do is look at how objects help so many people. I promise you it will be different. I remember a game I used to play when I was a kid, I would look at someone and imagine their amazing life story. I do this now when I want to make new friends. Look, listen and feel for the opportunity for LOVE & FUN. Stay curious of the possibilities. Pick one person on every commute you will exchange a smile, a hello and ask them a question (people love sharing their opinions!). Amazing loves amazing, so he or she will find you while you are on your expedition of life.


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The other great place to find a great date is at the places YOU have meant to go to. No more waiting. Make the time for that thing you have wanted to do, that place you have wanted to go eat at, that vacation you’ve had on hold. Stop procrastinating. If you don’t make the time for yourself, odds are you won’t meet someone who will stop and make the time for you. Everyone has the same amount of time in 1 day we just all use it differently. Prioritize your values into a life you are proud of. If you value family time or friend time but you are always at work, your soul won’t be happy because you are misaligned on your values. So make time for what’s valuable to you. If work is your highest value, bring your happiness there, talk to people, get to know them, take the time to have coffee dates with colleagues that seem great to get to know, men or women.

Ready to use one of these suggestions? Have a question, comment to this article. Already used it, tell us how it went, we’d love to hear from you.


As always, if you are ready to get crystal clear on your life, gain confidence on your actions and goals, and build real love connections in your life, stop by the booth and sign up for a complimentary 15-minute Love Breakthrough Session at the SHCCNJ Annual Convention where you will get a personalized mini-action plan. Don’t miss this great opportunity to meet with me, your Clarity, Confidence and Connection Coach!

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