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Valentine's Day at the office

How to avoid these common Valentine’s Day workplace dilemmas

 

Valentine’s Day is one of the biggest days, full of hope, best intentions and sometimes awkward moments. It wasn’t always this way. Remember the good old days in elementary school where the teacher assigned everyone to bring a Valentine’s Day card for every classmate? That way no one would feel left out. Then all of a sudden high school came and you started get notes and flowers from strangers but your crush was nowhere to be found. Or maybe you weren’t sure whether you should gift something so you either brought nothing or a big white bear with a red bow that someone had to carry around all day!

 Valentine's Day at the office

Now that we are all grownups, not much has changed, Valentine’s Day in the workplace can be just as awkward but that’s what I’m here to help you with. These are the top 5 scenarios you could find yourself in and I’ve given you a plan to come out feeling like a Valentine’s Day s-hero!

 

Scenario 1

Your partner is traveling for work and you won’t see he/she for Valentine’s Day

If your partner is away from home on a business trip, you still have several options to be present for Valentine’s Day. First, make sure your partner is into receiving gifts at work. If they are usually reserved or shy and you think there’s a possibility they wouldn’t enjoy it, then simply give them their gift at home upon their return.   Whatever you do, don’t take it personally. Couples crossing boundaries at work is one of biggest starts to a fight…..and there is NO fighting on V-Day-that’s Jen’ law! Enforce it!

So what to get them? Stay away from generic heart shaped chocolate or flowers. Go for something more unique and filled with thought –for example do you have an inside joke about mafia movies, cats or Jamaica? Give them something with a flair of that and their favorite chocolate. Want to keep it low key but intimate? Write a love note or send a picture in an envelope that you seal with a kiss and sneak it into their coat, briefcase or purse! Remember to spritz your perfume on it xoxo

Scenario 2

You have a crush or romance at work

Computer keyboard key - Be my Valentine

Valentine’s Day gives an “unspoken” pass for people to bring a gift to someone they may be romantically interested without putting themselves on the line. So don’t be surprised if your crush takes this opportunity to give you something. But let’s just say they are CLUELESS or you are keeping it under wraps, then you can take initiative and bring a little something.

Here’s the caveat, your best bet is to bring something for EVERYONE, like Valentine’s Day donuts, small candy bags or boxes. This way you don’t really single anyone out like in the awkward high school days. BUT you also get to hand deliver them to each person. See where I’m going with this?

Now you get to strike up a conversation with him or her. “The awesome weather today inspired me to be in he Valentine’s Day mood, here’s some candy I brought” which can lead to, “Any crazy Valentine’s Day plans?” –if none you can refer to Scenario 5.

If he has plans with Valentine’s Day already, iIt’s all good, better to know now, than later. If he doesn’t you could say, “Then you have to decide if 2016 is your year to find that amazing partner.” If the answer is YES this is my year, then you’ll say something like, “Me too, want to get some coffee or a bite to eat?” and if they decline better for you. You didn’t spend the night pining on that you “shoulda said” something.

Scenario 3

You receive a gift or flowers from someone you ARE NOT interested in or you don’t eat chocolate

Valentine's Day Candy and Roses

It takes cojones to go to someone you like and give them something special on V-Day. This person has been thinking about it for a day or two at least. Unless they ask you out on a date, this isn’t the time to turn them down. Don’t give things more meaning than is actually there. It’s just chocolate and flowers. Receive. Allow goodness in your life. If this person is being offensive in any way then definitely don’t accept and let someone know. Or if you have allergies just let them know too. If you don’t eat chocolate you could say, “Thanks, would you like to share it?” or just graciously accept and share it later.

Scenario 4

You just AREN’T looking forward to Valentine’s Day at work

You aren’t alone. Glassdoor.com, a community where people share opinions about their workplaces, surveyed 1,000 employees and job seekers about Valentine’s Day. The survey results stated 58% of workers don’t look forward to the holiday. Maybe it’s time to change your view. Maybe get proactive this year and try something new for V-Day. A great team-building activity is put a LOVE & APPRECIATION BOARD, where everyone has access and people write on names of people and what they appreciate about them, they could do it anonymously. This could be up all week before Valentines. This not only lightens the atmosphere up but it builds a bond and camaraderie. Next thing you could try is a Secret Valentine, much like a Secret Santa. This way no one gets left out and it’s out of the box!

Scenario 5

You don’t have Valentine’s Day plans and not sure if you want some

MAKE PLANS anyway. Not sure where to go? Check out www.thedatingmix.com, they are NYC’s & the Tri-State areas go-to-site for all things dating, singles events and meeting someone special! In the event you change your mind or something better comes along you can always cancel. Even if you are waiting for a special someone to ask you out, makes plans on your own, at least you have taken care of yourself FIRST. Make sure you actively decide what to do. Most people end off feeling like crap because they thought something magical was going to happen AND it doesn’t. Don’t you think it’s time to create some magic for yourself! There will also be a variety of interest groups that night on www.meetup.com getting together, so no excuses!

 

As always I am here for you and I’d love to hear what you have to say. Have you ever been in 1 of these scenarios? What did you do? Send your burning dating, love & relationship questions to jen@avconnexions.com. I’ll be sure to answer you within 24 hours.

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Latina entrepreneur waiting in an airport

5 Valentine’s Day ideas for Latina entrepreneurs on a business trip

Latina entrepreneur waiting in an airport

If you are a Latina entrepreneur who travels frequently for business, chances are you might be away from your loved one on a special occasion like Valentine’s Day. Many people are on a business trip by that time; you are not alone. Being lands and seas apart on this very day can be daunting for most couples.

Eating alone on Valentine’s Day when you are travelling for work, with an extremely love-charged aura in every restaurant you visit and a huge crowd of couples all around would make you miss your loved one even more. You’d probably avoid looking at people holding hands and kissing. It might just trigger second thoughts about your new career, or regret having accepted this new position in which you need to travel for business constantly.

Before you just swear not to travel again, here are some real life ideas that will suck the glam out of you. It just takes a little bit of preparation but can be done

1. Be open to a sweet surprise and trust your better half
Five years back, a friend of mine was really upset about her business trip because she had to be away from her hubby on Valentine’s Day. However, after coming to her hotel, when she unpacked her suitcase, a heart shaped box of her favorite chocolates awaited her with a handwritten note on top. She still finds that note and box of chocolates to be her favorite Valentine’s Day gift of all times.

2. Hotel accommodation team could be of help
If you won’t be able to celebrate Valentine’s Day together with your significant other, there are no obstacle for showing how much you love and care for him/her. Five days before their flight, call the hotel staff where your “better half” will be staying. Ask them to make a customized special arrangement right before he or she reaches the hotel. When they’d open the door, they’d have a surprise gift, rose petals, hand-written card and a scent of his favorite perfume all around the room. Here are some nice Valentine’s Day gift ideas and a reliable shipping service that will send your gift ahead of time. Make sure the hotel knows they will be receiving it.

Romantic still life with champagne, strawberry and roses for Latina business woman

3. A mighty escape
A couple I know, married for more than twenty years, really wanted to spend time together on Valentine’s Day. Knowing they both would be away on a business trip their separate ways, they simply planned a long weekend gateway, starting from the business places they were working at and meeting each other at a location they have longed visiting since they started dating. They hired a local travel agency to make the arrangements and coordinate their respective trips and stay. Now that became a really special celebration for the couple who long intended to visit that place together.

4. Communicate love through cyber space
Taking advantage of all the ways we can connect over the Internet these days using our phones or tablets -I’m crazy about my new IPad!-  traveling couples might decide they can simply spend the evening talking to each other. Most important is keeping the conversation romantic! Keep it out of the everyday domestic routine or telling each other about work. Talk about what made you fall in love with each other or just simply go down the happy memory lane of your relationship. Dare each other to remember first kiss or first date, first funny encounter with the in-laws or any other comforting memory. Order room service with champagne in each other’s hotel room and drink, eat or let your imagination play your evening together!

5. Go a little out of the way to make it happen
If you know you both will be traveling at the same time, dare your spouse or significant other to prepare a mutual surprise. Count on the hotel crew to help you prepare yours, they are always willing to help on these special occasions. If there is a time difference, plan to have it at a time that works for both. It can go from staying in to taking each other out to a local restaurant, a spa and massage session, ordering each other’s favorite meal or buying tickets to a special event.  Combination of all these options is also accepted!

Facial massage in beauty spa for Latina business woman

Now what do you think would be your best options?

Do not get upset if everything doesn’t run the way you expected. The unpredictable can also be fun! Just keep in mind that Valentine’s Day is a celebration to pamper yourselves and to show each other’s love; do not try to run the occasion as you run your business!