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Female Leadership: Why women do not support each other?

I wanted to share some personal reflections about our very successful and recent Female Leadership event we conducted in the New Jersey/New York region. These opinions are my own and in no way reflect the opinions of others who participated at the event.

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Contrary to what often happens in social media, where people usually post their most successful moments, I want to bring some reflections that I hope will generate productive discussions moving forward.

The GOOD: The event got great reviews from participants, as we have profusely shared on social media. I would say the best part was the energy in the room, the discussions generated by guest speakers and coaches, and the friendliness. Please see photo gallery and testimonials!

The BAD:
It was a Saturday and a long day! Even if most attendees agreed that it was worthwhile, it was a very long day. Thanks to our volunteers and all the people who helped us put the event together, we pulled it through but I felt I had been run over by a truck the next day … and the next! We will definitely review our format for a more productive day.

The white elephant in the room is, why women do not support each other? We discussed it at the event and with some of the speakers, and there is always a dose of extreme judgment about each other in women in any position or role.

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Arlene Quinones-Perez, Esq.. Partner at DeCotiis, Fitzpatrick, Cole and Giblin, LLP and Pres Hispanic Bar Association of New Jersey

In the words of Arlene Quinones-Perez, partner at the hosting Corporate Sponsor and one of our speakers, ““Other women would judge harshly their female counterparts –even more than men do,” she said. “Being a woman is like having a cross on your back that makes you more visible.”

In my own experience, men are usually more readily eager to give a hand, open a door, say a word of support or  are even more forgiving than women. I have found it difficult to deal with women who have the power to make decisions to support me and still choose not to –people that know me personally, not talking about strangers.

I understand that conditions are not always in favor of supporting a project or an initiative –I do not expect positive results 100% of the time but… Send me a nice response acknowledging my efforts. Pick up the phone and get to know me better -after all, I am one of you! Tell me NO with a reason and a smile, for God’s sake!

And then, of course, there are the great exceptions to this rule, and those who ALWAYS take the time to answer an email or pick up the phone, no matter how high in the structure or how busy they are –and you know who you are!

You might say I am venting with you and yes, I am! Because we need to bring these topics to the table if we are authentic in our promises to rising together. I’ve been in large Latina leadership meetings in which final conclusions of the meeting were around supporting and empowering each other and then… nothing!

So today I want to share with you a fantastic NO response I got from a company based in New Jersey. It is an example of professional courtesy and exceptional vision, in my view, because it talks about the culture of a company. I knew nobody in the company and my request was a total “cold call.”

And here it is:


My name is Flor Wickham, I support Rita Mitjans and the ADP Foundation. Thank you for your email.

As you can imagine, the ADP Foundation receives many more requests to participate in funding endeavors than our limited resources will permit. This leads to difficult decisions in establishing priorities and means that a number of important activities and requests, such as yours, cannot be supported by the Foundation.  Our focus is to support our associates philanthropic giving by matching associate donations, supporting education through scholarships for children of ADP Associates and giving to key education partners, and with the remainder we try to focus giving where there is significant associate engagement.  Our sponsorships are based on a more national/global reach aligned with our CSR pillars.

Best of luck to you and we commend you for the work you are doing with female leaders worldwide.

Kind regards,

Flor Wickham | Director
Corporate Social Responsibility

Kudos to you, Ms Wickham, and for raising the bar on professional courtesy!

There is no one person who can do this alone- you might think you can but reality is, we all need to work together! Be willing to open doors for other women, because others have opened doors for you! That is the practice of true leadership!


What is your experience on women supporting each other?  Do you find it more often in certain environments than in others? And what can we do to make it better?


ACA for small business from ADP and SHCCNJ

AffordableCareActADP and the Statewide Hispanic Chamber of Commerce of New Jersey (SHCCNJ) have partnered to present “What Small Businesses Need to Know about the Affordable Care Act (ACA),” an online FREE webinar on Thursday January 29, 2015 from 11:00 am to 12:30pm EST.

A leading global provider of Human Capital Management (HCM) solutions, ADP announced the availability of information, enhancements and solutions designed to help small, midsized and large businesses in the United States manage their compliance with the evolving requirements of the Affordable Care Act (ACA).

ADP can help companies approach their ACA compliance strategically by providing solutions, resources and expertise around employee communications, eligibility, reporting and enrollment.

ADP will provide up-to-date information on the Affordable Care Act –la Ley de Cuidado de Salud a Bajo Precio– and best practices specific to small businesses in a one-hour presentation followed by a Q&A period.

1. What main regulations will be covered during the webinar about Affordable Care Act for small business owners?

ADP’s January 27 webinar will address the following ACA-related topics:

  • Components of the ACA that apply to small businesses
  • The Small Business Health Care Tax Credit and how to know whether you qualify
  • The Small Business Health Options Program (SHOP) marketplace and the changes that came about in November, 2014
  • The Employer Mandate and what it means for small business owners
  • Notification, reporting, and record-keeping requirement

2. What are the main benefits of the law for small businesses?

Benefits stemming from the ACA include:

Tax credits: Some small businesses could be eligible for the Small Business Health Care Tax Credit

Access: The Small Business Health Options Program (SHOP) marketplace is only available to small employers.  (Our webcast will focus on these provisions and provide eligibility requirements.)

Recruiting and retaining employees:  ADP’s research has shown that organizations are extending coverage beyond the mandated ACA full-time employee population to attract and retain great people.  What’s more, in our November, 2014 ACA webcast, more than two thirds (69 percent) of the 1,703 respondents to our real-time poll question (“Does Your company currently offer health insurance to its employees?”), said they did offer insurance to their employees.  Given that most respondents were from small businesses, this demonstrates that not only do many small businesses offer health insurance, but it also reinforces the importance of keeping informed about ACA-mandated health insurance reforms.

3. What timetable should small business owners pay attention to in order to stay in compliance?affordable care act ahead sign


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Employer shared responsibility
Reporting requirements
Excise tax on high-cost plans (2018)

Small employers, those with less than 50 full-time equivalent employees (FTEs) as defined by the Affordable Care Act (ACA), are not subject to shared responsibility (a penalty for failing to offer group health insurance). However, small employers are still subject to other ACA provisions.

Use this checklist to help you understand some of these requirements.


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4. What can ADP offer to its affiliates and potential members that other competitors cannot provide? 

As a leading global provider of Human Capital Management (HCM) solutions, ADP provides information, enhancements and solutions designed to help small, midsized and large businesses in the United States manage their compliance with the evolving requirements of the Affordable Care Act (ACA).  ADP can help companies approach their ACA compliance strategically by providing solutions, resources and expertise around employee communications, eligibility, reporting and enrollment.

Recognizing that complying with the ACA can be a challenge for small businesses, ADP’s introduced additional tools and resources to its popular RUN Powered by ADP® (“RUN”) human resource and payroll platform, including:

ACA Dashboard – Provides tools, reports, and useful links to help clients understand how the ACA impacts their business and employees;

FTE Calculator – Helps clients determine their number of Full Time Equivalent employees and if they may be considered an ‘applicable large employer’ and therefore be subject to the Shared Responsibility provision of the ACA;

Time and Attendance – provides workforce planning to improve time tracking, apply employee schedules and monitor employee hours to help clients comply with Shared Responsibility;

Health Care Tax Credit Assist – Automatically integrates with the RUN platform and organizes information about employees, which includes wages, hours and premiums to help businesses determine their eligibility for the Small Business Health Care Tax Credit; and

Ongoing ACA Alerts and Education – Legislative and regulatory alerts and educational materials, including webinars and updates, to help clients keep apprised of latest ACA developments.

HR Help Desk – ADP’s team of HR certified professionals available to help clients navigate and understand their ACA responsibilities.

5. Are you going to allow a Q&A session and if yes, how is it going to work? 

ADP is making available to attendees of the webcast a checklist in English and Spanish titled “ACA Checklist for Small Businesses” that can be downloaded during the webcast (link to checklist appears below).  In addition, we have a 30-minute bilingual Q&A session scheduled after the presentation.

Click here to register NOW!

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